tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3649118720488149471.post1603780000523950301..comments2023-12-27T00:52:05.523-08:00Comments on Dementia Diaries: A Journey With Dementia: "She's Real Happy With Me"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3649118720488149471.post-62250989648295049712012-08-15T14:31:52.009-07:002012-08-15T14:31:52.009-07:00Thanks Robin. If I can help anyone through our exp...Thanks Robin. If I can help anyone through our experiences, then it makes it all worth it! (Not the disease...but the sharing part of it ;) )Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06151048661050906612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3649118720488149471.post-46774159105619020322012-08-15T08:06:11.665-07:002012-08-15T08:06:11.665-07:00Thank you Cassandra for that advice. I know of an ...Thank you Cassandra for that advice. I know of an older lady who has dementia so when I see her I also think that she doesn't remember me, and I don't want to embarrass her, so I just walk by her. I will now always smile and say hello to her. You are really educating all of us in this disease! Thank you again.robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17456444185974043402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3649118720488149471.post-80879335945839869292012-08-06T13:17:51.598-07:002012-08-06T13:17:51.598-07:00Well said, Patty :)Well said, Patty :)Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06151048661050906612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3649118720488149471.post-88895282517792305542012-08-06T11:05:17.055-07:002012-08-06T11:05:17.055-07:00Cassandra, I am so glad you posted this. You'r...Cassandra, I am so glad you posted this. You're so right about people not wanting to come out of their comfort zone. I do not have dementia, but when we lost our son, so many people did not even call, express condolences, because they did not know what to say. Who says that what a person needs is "the right thing to say." All a person needs, when they have dementia, or are struggling with other trials in their life, is to know people love and support them, no matter what. How do you do that? You show that person LOVE, even though you do not know what to do or say. Send them a note to let them know you're thinking about them, drop by a little plant, dinner, or whatever and just give them a hug. Too many times people want to give well-meaning advice. Unless you have been through the same problem, please skip the advice. It usually never comes out right, sounds trite, or comes off as a platitude. Again, often, the words unspoken are the loudest of all. Those unspoken words of love and support are what have the most meaning and are what will be remembered and cherished. Not some well-meant platitude or advice.Patta Pattahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13259289104371640823noreply@blogger.com